When everyone told us to enjoy doing our own things before having our baby, we didn’t take them too seriously as we were fully prepared (or so we thought!) for anything that pregnancy and a baby could throw at us. How wrong were we?! You can forget being in a rush!
The thing I have most had to adapt to once we came out of the ‘new-born’ stage was just how long it takes to actually do anything or go anywhere! For those that know me well, I’m an absolute control freak who plans and organises every last deal of everything (I drive Mario insane!!) so for me, not feeling in control or on top of things makes me quite anxious and stressed. When we had Mia I struggled for a long time with this.
Not only do you have to make sure your dressed (in clothes that go together!), baby’s dressed and you have your changing bags packed with all of the essentials, I found that even getting into the car, both strapped in and ready to actually drive off could sometimes take me 10 whole minutes! How is that possible?! At first I didn’t factor getting in and out of the car into my timings to meet people or get to appointments and even now with a toddler who is extremely stubborn and wants to get into her car seat herself (which takes an age!), I find it takes at least 10 minutes to get her in the car, bags in and myself ready to set off!
Absolutely everything takes more time to do and ultimately gets more difficult the older the child gets! Gone are the days when food shopping was a case of running in and out with the trolley in 15 minutes max, now it takes me 30 minutes to even get in the door and down aisle 1 as the girls want to sit in the trolley, get out of the trolley, want to sit in the trolley again!
Everything has to be planned, I can’t just ‘nip’ to the shop anymore as it takes far too long to get the girls in and out of the car and round the shop than to actually plan to get it another time. Any essential items we run out of have to be planned into a days’ worth of activities or Mario has to grab it for me!
Then there’s the hurdle of getting ready for the day, I find just having a shower in the mornings or putting on my make-up have to be a quick 5 minutes otherwise one of the girls come to find me to see what I’m doing, which always results in them getting all my make-up and toiletries out and spreading them out all over the floor!
It’s taken me around 2 years to feel like I’m really in a good daily routine, one where I can get everything that needs to be done, done and also sort myself and the girls out. I feel like I’m constantly working but it works for us and I can go to bed at night feeling like I have done everything I can and made the most of every single day.
Saying that, I have learnt to accept not everything gets done and jobs just have to be prioritised. If there’s any advice I would give a new mum or a mum-to-be it would be to try and relax about things that don’t need to be done right that moment. If you relax about how much time you ‘don’t’ have and try and enjoy the things you do get done, it will be a much smoother ride and let’s face it, parenting is a hard enough ride as it is. You can forget being in a rush!